26 April 2009

What's been going on

You may have noticed I haven't been posting. Well, here's what's going on.

My ex took off. No one has seen or heard from him in a week. His parents are fairly sure he's at the house of the girl he was dating over the winter, because they pulled his phone records and he called her right before he disappeared. They went over there and her kid (3 years old!) answered the door and said he was there, but he wouldn't come to the door.

He's missed three visitations and one child support payment. I'm really not sure what I'm going to do without child support. I'm planning on calling the lawyer this week to see what my options are.

I'm left with a mixed bag of emotions. Part of me is livid. He blew off his kids, his responsibilities, left me to handle it all- the kids' questions, the childcare, the bills. The other part of me is relieved. I hate him. I think we would be better off if he never came back.

I don't know what to do/think/feel.

However, as all moms (and some dads, too, I know) do, I've just kept going. I've been keeping the kids busy playing, working in the garden, giving them extra love.

Here are a few pictures of what we've been working on:

Project Clothesline is back in full effect, thanks to unseasonably warm weather in New England:

We've begun gardening, planting peas...

lettuce, spinach, beets and potatoes.

I guess it could be worse. Sigh.


Kimberli said...

((hugs)) I'm sorry he's giving you trouble again... and worse yet, giving the kids trouble!! I hope things improve soon. You're doing great, though!! Keep the 3 of you busy! Enjoy this awesome weather!!! Excited for your garden!!!

BabiesandBargains said...

OMG you NEVER catch a break! Somehow you keep the most amazing composure! I need to get my clothes line up and some sort of fence around my plants!

LauraC said...

I am so sorry to hear this news. My thoughts are with you.

(On a garden note, all my spinach is dying as we are having record heat in Raleigh. 94 yesterday. Poor little spinach babies.)

Looking For Freedom... said...

Ugh. It's too bad they can't automatically draft his child support from his paychecks.

I love the clothesline! I'd try it myself, but I'm pretty sure our HOA would fine us for stringing clothes up in our unfenced "backyard" (in quotes because it is the size of a postage stamp).